Hi Everyone,
I had a client ask me recently what to do when a roommate invites a houseguest over for a 10 day stay during the holidays in an already crowded apartment. My client is highly intuitive and sensitive, and also gives readings, which means she needs considerable down time. Her question was how to handle the situation, and whether or not there was more she could do energetically to protect herself during this time, or if she should just plan on staying somewhere else.
Sometimes the best energetic boundary is speaking up for ourselves and our needs. Empaths know they have a different set of needs than most people, and so we can get the idea that our needs don’t count as much because they seem unreasonable or too different from the rest of the world. Learning how to speak our needs unapologetically is a basic step in proper self-care. Yes, we take the first scary step in admitting who we are, but how else are people to truly know us?
Empaths and intuitives tend to withdraw from this type of situation. A while back I wrote an essay on the need to speak up and the unconscious tendency of sensitive people to withdraw instead of communicate. You can visit that essay at
Intuitive, Introverted Pattern
In the end my client spoke to her roomate about discussing before hand any more extended visits. Her roommate did not “get” the problem, but because she respected her relationship with my client, agreed. My client was pleasantly surprised and took this as a lesson in her process of learning to claim and take care of who she really is.
Elaine
Hi
I’ve been doing a lot of work around boundaries (and a lot of other things, as you’ve guessed!) and speaking up for myself. Interestingly enough what I found with using EFT was that I was instinctively speaking up for myself, whereas before I’d think before I’d say anything and the moment was gone.
I was very very blocked energetically in asserting myself and although I tapped on a lot of things, I didn’t tap specifically on that – it was a byproduct. I also remember reading about a guy on Gary Craig’s website who tapped on something else (can’t remember what) but found that he was no longer shy and that he’d start conversations very easily in a way he hadn’t been able to do before. I also find that tapping on creating strong boundaries and aura is proving helpful too.
So EFT is a very good establishment and maintenance tool in assisting us introverted intuitives to speak up for ourselves and speak our truth without hesitation, apology, censor or judgement.
Also wanted to say how great your blog is Elaine and how insightful and illuminating I find it.
Namaste
Julie