Portals Workshop, Raven, next month!

Hello Everyone,

I hope you are having a wonderful summer!  I have been busy this summer with travel and summer camps, but it’s almost time for me to return to my practice in the next few weeks.  As many of you know, I began taking energy work clients again this past January.  (Hurray!  I had taken almost five years off!)  It’s been a pleasure working with Empaths again, both new clients and returning clients. 

This past March I also had the chance to reconnect in person with my shaman mentor Marv Harwood, and his wife Shanon for their Archetype Workshop.  I had such a great time, I decided to bring them to Portland for a shaman workshop this summer, August 24-26th.  (See details below)

Their background is in the Blackfoot tradition (north American plains)  They were mentored and taught by two of the elders of the tribe, and given the mission to spread their knowledge and experience.   I first met Marv at my first Four Winds workshop almost 15 years ago.  Since then he’s mentored me in my own personal journey, and served as a “back up tracker” for some of my stickier client questions.  He and Shanon are incredibly knowledgeable and gifted.  You can visit their website here

Here’s an opportunity to learn from Marv and Shanon from within their tradition with a Portals workshop that requires no prerequisites!  If you have an interest in shamanic work and how it can help you with your own personal journey, I hope you will join us this August.  I am very excited to have the opportunity to learn more myself, and not have to travel!  If you have questions don’t hesitate to email me, and please spread the word.  To see the flyer, click here

Here is a description of the workshop from Marv and Shanon:

Throughout the ages, Shaman have walked many paths – all leading to “Portals”.
Portals are Shamanic gateways to worlds beyond our consciousness;
worlds where true healing exists and miracles happen.
Come walk the animistic and the energetic paths in tandem to amass the
knowledge and skills to create an Amopistaan – your personal animistic mesa.
This in-depth series of 9 seminars (portals) is an on-going program of theory & practical hands-on work.
The portals are designed to facilitate the successful assimilation of information and skills presented.
As the student gains and demonstrates proficiency they will be given rites of passage at each level.
Intelligent, articulate, teacher, bridge to the other side – these are all terms that
describe the mystery and the majesty of Raven.
Come meet Raven and let his black wings and bright eyes carry you from this world
into the world of timelessness where he’ll coach and guide you to find that stillness within.
The “Portals” Series is open to everyone. No pre-requisites are required for any of the individual seminars.
You may attend them in any order, at any of our teaching locations. Welcome to the journey!

 

WORKSHOP DATES
August 24 – 26, 2018
$399
Friday Registration: 4-5 PM / Friday Class: 5-9 PM
Saturday: 9 AM – 8 PM
Sunday: 9 AM – 5 PM

REGISTRATION DEADLINE: August 10th, 2018
TO REGISTER

Send email to: coachelaine at clearreflectioncoaching.com
 
PRE-REQUISITE
None

LOCATION
Multnomah Arts Center
Classroom #10
7688 SW Capitol Hwy
Portland, OR 97219

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My interview with Karyn Kulenovic is Live for the next 72 hours

Hello Everyone,

My interview with Karyn Kulenovic is available starting today for the next 72 hours!  I hope you enjoy.  Just click here to sign up and listen.  In case you miss my interview this weekend, the series will replay for free at the end of the Summit.

The interviews for the Integrated Empath Master Class are all free, but you can purchase the series to keep. If you do I will earn a small commission, which I gratefully appreciate!

Enjoy!

Elaine

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Elaine’s Privacy Policy, and the 2nd Empath Summit Masterclass Begins Today!

Hello Everyone,

Just a reminder that The Integrated Empath Summit hosted by Karyn Kulenovic starts today, June 1st!  Each interview will be live for 72 hours, so even if you didn’t have a chance to listen today, there is still time over the weekend.  My interview goes live on Saturday the 9th.  Karyn interviewed me about Shamanic Energy Work and how it can change the lives of Empaths, especially around trauma.  I hope you will tune in, especially if you have had questions about Shamanic Work and whether it would be a good fit for you.  The Summit runs through June 18th, and it is FREE!  My interview airs on Saturday the 9th.  To sign up please click HERE. (This is a referral link, which means that if you click on it and then purchase the whole series to keep forever, I will earn a small commission, which I greatly appreciate.)

As many of you know, the EU has passed a law that recently went into effect requiring those of us that have EU subscribers and clients to post a privacy policy describing what is done with your personal data.  You can view my policy by clicking here.  At any time you may also unsubscribe from my list by clicking the unsubscribe link in the emails I send you, or by emailing me directly.

Thanks so much everyone, and I hope you enjoy the Empath Summit,

much love,

Elaine

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Shamanic Workshop, August, with Marv and Shanon Harwood of Kimmapii

Hello Everyone,

I’m very excited to announce that my mentor, Marv Harwood, and his wife Shanon, have agreed to come to Portland to teach a shamanic workshop.  This is the first of nine Portals workshops, and is a great introduction for those of you who are interested in shamanic work and personal transformation and would like a good place to start.  For those of you who already carry a mesa but would like to learn about another tradition, this is a special opportunity, especially if you are near Portland, Oregon!  Here is a link to the flyer, Raven – Oregon, including more information, and a brief description is below…  The class is limited to 20 students.  I look forward to meeting you in person in August! 

Here is a description of the workshop from Marv and Shanon:

Throughout the ages, Shaman have walked many paths – all leading to “Portals”.
Portals are Shamanic gateways to worlds beyond our consciousness;
worlds where true healing exists and miracles happen.
Come walk the animistic and the energetic paths in tandem to amass the
knowledge and skills to create an Amopistaan – your personal animistic mesa.
This in-depth series of 9 seminars (portals) is an on-going program of theory & practical hands-on work.
The portals are designed to facilitate the successful assimilation of information and skills presented.
As the student gains and demonstrates proficiency they will be given rites of passage at each level.
Intelligent, articulate, teacher, bridge to the other side – these are all terms that
describe the mystery and the majesty of Raven.
Come meet Raven and let his black wings and bright eyes carry you from this world
into the world of timelessness where he’ll coach and guide you to find that stillness within.
The “Portals” Series is open to everyone. No pre-requisites are required for any of the individual seminars.
You may attend them in any order, at any of our teaching locations. Welcome to the journey!

 

WORKSHOP DATES
August 24 – 26, 2018
$399
Friday Registration: 4-5 PM / Friday Class: 5-9 PM
Saturday: 9 AM – 8 PM
Sunday: 9 AM – 5 PM

REGISTRATION DEADLINE: August 10th, 2018
TO REGISTER

Send email to: coachelaine at clearreflectioncoaching.com
 
PRE-REQUISITE
None

LOCATION
Multnomah Arts Center
Classroom #10
7688 SW Capitol Hwy
Portland, OR 97219

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Elaine’s Interview Airs Saturday June 9th!

Hi Everyone,

It’s hard for me to believe, but it’s already time for the second season of The Integrated Empath Summit hosted by Karyn Kulenovic!  Karyn interviewed me about Shamanic Energy Work and how it can change the lives of Empaths, especially around trauma.  I hope you will tune in, especially if you have had questions about Shamanic Work and whether it would be a good fit for you.

The Summit includes interviews from 28 experts and is especially geared for Empaths.  It begins June 1st and runs through June 18th, and it is FREE!  My interview airs on Saturday the 9th.  To sign up please click HERE. (This is a referral link, which means that if you click on it and then purchase the whole series to keep forever, I will earn a small commission, which I greatly appreciate.)

I’m also excited to report that I will be returning to a regular schedule in the fall, which means a new book should be available in 2019 and I may also be taking more clients and writing more blog posts.

Stay tuned–my mentor Marv Harwood, and his wife, Shanon, of the Kimmapii School of Shamanism are coming to Portland at the end of August to teach a weekend workshop, no prerequisites required.  More information to come soon.  Until then I hope to see you at the Empath Summit!

much love,

Elaine

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Elaine is taking energy work clients in 2018

Hello Everyone,

I’m happy to announce after a very long hiatus, I will be taking energy work clients starting in mid-January.  Please see energy healings page, and if you are interested, please contact me.  Wishing you all a very happy holiday season!

Elaine

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Elaine’s News: Interview airs on the 3rd, new email list

Hello Everyone,

I just wanted to let my readers know that I’ve just moved over from Feedburner to a new email software called MailPoet.  Please bear with me as I work out the kinks.

It’s been a big year.  Some of you may know that I took a break from shamanic work to concentrate on writing another book.  However, my life took an unexpected turn with a move, and with withdrawing my child from school to do independent study this past year.  It’s been a challenging yet fun year seeing my son thrive in an out-of-the-box environment, but it’s left me very little time to write or to take clients.  I hope to be back in the writing routine soon.

In the midst of adjusting to this new lifestyle, I had an opportunity to talk to another Empath about my work that I had put on hold.  Karyn Kulenovic asked if I was willing to be interviewed as an expert for her Integrated Empath Summit.  She had read my books and wanted me to speak about the Empath and relationships, especially around the Drama Triangle, the Rescuer Role and how Empaths can attract narcissists.   The experience reminded me of why I went into coaching and then later became a shaman.  Helping others learn how to empower themselves is so satisfying.  In speaking with Karyn, I realized that I had forgotten how much I knew about the subject, and how satisfying it is to do this work.  I had so much fun in this interview!

Karyn has interviewed 22 Empath experts.  You can listen to all 22 interviews for free.  Two interviews per day will air beginning June 1st.  Mine airs on June 3rd.  You also have the option to purchase all the interviews at the end of the summit.  If you are interested, you can register here.

In talking to Karyn I realized that I had great case studies  for a book on the Empath and romantic relationships.  I’m really looking forward to sharing these with you.  Thank you for your support!

Elaine

 

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Listen to Elaine’s interview on the Integrated Empath Summit, June 3rd

Hello Beautiful Souls!

I’m very excited to announce that I will appear as one of the experts on Karyn Kulenovic’s Integrated Empath Summit.  My interview goes live on June 3rd, and you can listen to all 21 expert interviews for free.  Just click here to sign up.  My interview concentrates mostly on relationships, especially with narcissists, the Drama Triangle, and shamanic energy work.  I hope you will check it out.

much love,

Elaine

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Elaine appears as featured author on Jenna Avery’s Called to Write Blog

Hello Everyone,

It’s been a while since my last blog post.  My life has undergone some upheaval in a good way in the past year, but it has left me little time to focus on writing, except to my email support clients.  However, I had a wonderful opportunity to participate in Jenna Avery’s Author Insights this past month.   Jenna has been featuring authors who have made it all the way to the finish line and published their work.  Back in 2012 I had the pleasure of joining one of Jenna’s Writing Circles, which helped me complete my books.  If you are an aspiring writer, you may enjoy my article about dealing bad reviews for my book series.  You can see the article here.    

With my life calming down once again, I hope to return to writing my next book on Empaths and relationships, and to posting more here this summer.

much love,

Elaine

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The Empath, Narcissist, and Favors

I’ve had a few questions around situations in which a relationship with a narcissist has ended, and ended badly, and lo and behold, a few months later, or even years later, the narcissist makes a request for a special favor despite all that had gone before.  Clients come back to me stirred up, old wounds uncovered, resentment brewing once again.  How can this person have requested a favor; what the heck is wrong with the narcissist?  Empaths must remember that if we are healthy we tend to understand how a person is feeling, and we tend to respect boundaries, so we naturally do not ask favors of those people who have told us to go away.  When we are healthy we understand that our feelings and needs are just as important as others’ feelings and needs.  But for the narcissist, the narcissist simply cannot see anyone in their lives as important as themselves.  The narcissist simply doesn’t care how other people are feeling.  It is the narcissist’s feelings, needs, and requests that are important.  Everything else takes second place to the narcissist.

 
If you have read my book on the Fan-Hero Family System, you are familiar with the Enneagram Type Three, which I like to call the Hero.  When the Hero is emotionally dissociated, the Hero usually starts behaving as a narcissist.  While the healthy Hero is in pursuit of self-improvement and acts as an inspiration to others, the unhealthy Hero believes in the image he has of himself and of others in his life, and tries to protect that image even at the expense of others and in direct contradiction of reality.  In the Fan-Hero Family System book I described the adult son of a Hero who broke off contact with his narcissist father because his father could not treat him or his family in a way that wasn’t damaging and hurtful.  The son, my client, had explained to his father that his father seemed incapable of seeing that there were problems in the relationship, and therefore no change could occur.  Unless those changes happened, my client couldn’t afford the negativity and crazy-making behavior from his father in his life.  My client asked for no visits, and no contact unless the behavior was addressed.  Basically since his father was incapable of even admitting there was a problem between them, the relationship was over for my client, even though the narcissist father wanted the relationship.

 
As you can imagine, this breakdown of the father-son relationship was extremely hard on my client.  It had taken him years of hard work to become clear enough about his family to see what was really going on, and to see how shallow many of the family relationships were.  In his family, like with many unhealthy Fan-Hero Families, he was expected to serve the family and the image.  He was a support person, not the person who should get the attention and glory, which always goes to the Hero.  His wife had been punished because she had seen what the dynamic was, and then his children had been neglected and ignored.  On one level my client had allowed this to happen, which had caused him major grief within his marriage.  On another level, this was the set up of his family, so once he did his personal work he was able to release himself from these contracts and behave as the man he always wanted to be.  His marriage repaired itself, and his children were free of any generational contracts from his side of the family.  He knew he had been lucky to escape, and he only regretted that it had taken him so long.

 
A year after he had ended his relationship with his father he received a letter from him asking for help.  His father wanted to remove his son from his will so he could give that money to his current wife, who was likely to outlive him.  His father had mismanaged his money, and wanted to fix the problem this way, but didn’t want to do so without his son’s approval.  My client, who had assumed no inheritance was coming anyway, was angered by this intrusion and had the urge to write back to his father and tell him to jump in a lake.  He was surprised that his wife found the letter hilarious—she encouraged him to not respond at all.  While my client ended up deciding not to respond to his father’s request, it was a good opportunity to look at the mind and motivations of the narcissist, especially the unhealthy Hero type Narcissist.

 
While a healthy person would feel extreme shame and embarrassment at writing such a letter, the narcissist has no problem with this sort of request because he is too emotionally dissociated to feel uncomfortable feelings of shame and of embarrassment.  He doesn’t have that natural check in place that the rest of us have, which is the main benefit of being able to feel and to handle our uncomfortable emotions.  Because the narcissist only considers himself, he doesn’t consider what effect writing such a letter would have on his son, or even on his wife for that matter.  He is only fixated on getting his own needs met, which is to have enough money in his bank account so that his young wife won’t go back to work and possibly leave him in his old age.  Also notice that in this case the narcissist also avoids responsibility for his mismanagement of money and for the ensuing consequences by asking his son to give him his approval.  By making it a joint decision he doesn’t have to shoulder all the responsibility for his actions.  The narcissist also doesn’t see that his letter simply reinforces his son’s conclusion that he is incapable of having a healthy relationship.  He doesn’t see or care that he makes it appear that his wife has only married him for his money.

 

Another point Empaths don’t realize is that the Narcissist can make such a request because he has nothing to lose.  Since he doesn’t feel uncomfortable like most people would, there is no cost in asking for a favor.  Either way, he wins.  In this particular case, the narcissist wins no matter how my client responded.  The narcissist can tell himself that he did his best in contacting his son if his son doesn’t respond, and it’s his son’s fault for not helping him.  He wins if his son contacts him and says go ahead since he can then share responsibility for fixing his mismanagement of his money.  He can tell his wife that his son knows about the change in the will, too, so she won’t feel like she’s imposing on the father-son relationship.  But he also wins if his son says no because he can tell his wife that his son cares more about the money than her financial security.  In all three cases the narcissist avoids responsibility, can transfer blame, and also lightens any emotional discomfort that may be pushing through his repression.

 
While my client was angry, and while he understood on a whole new level how deep the narcissism ran in his family, he was grateful he had already ended the relationship with his father.  If he hadn’t done his personal work and had still been in contact with his father, he would have had to deal with his father’s financial problems.  It would have been enough to end the relationship at that point, but then his father could blame the ensuing rift on his son’s attachment to money, rather than deal with the cleaner break my client had made months before.  The narcissist’s behavior isn’t surprising here, even though many Empaths are revolted and baffled by such behavior.  Narcissists have no compunction asking for favors that benefit them to the detriment or discomfort of the people around them.  If you are in relationship with a narcissist, keep this in mind.  A narcissist is too wounded to be able to care about you as you care about him.  He is simply incapable of doing so.  He may say he loves you, but remember that his love for you is secondary to his own needs and feelings.  Staying in a close relationship with such a person without keeping this fact in mind can lead to deep hurt and betrayal.  Don’t expect a narcissist to treat you as you would treat him—that simply misses the point of what it means to be a narcissist.

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