Hi Everyone,
I had a client recently who wanted to do some soul retrieval work on her need to control. She thought that being controlling was in direct conflict with letting more Spirit in, and that this was the reason why her intuitive hits felt off to her, and why her journeying wasn’t as spectacular as it had been.
While surrendering control and going with the flow are required practices for most intuitives, for some reason I didn’t believe my client was that controlling. To me she seemed quite gifted in following guidance, trusting Spirit and leaping, and had even just recently changed her life at Spirit’s direction. Instead, I suspected that this feeling of needing to be in control was because she was feeling insecure and unsafe, and was still a bit ungrounded from that change.
When we took a closer look, that turned out to be the case. Four months before she had completely changed her life by moving from the big city to the country to live with her boyfriend. She hadn’t yet completely claimed her new home, and she and her boyfriend were still getting used to living with each other.
Our need to control isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It can serve very good purposes, just as fear does. Fear can motivate us to take care of things we might overlook, and it helps us avoid dangerous situations. Control helps us organize our lives, and can keep all those details of being in the physical world from overwhelming us. Problems do arrise when we let these first chakra energies get out of proportion. But, if I have a client that has already done a lot of personal work on these issues, I suggest that perhaps their current need to control is an indication that their first chakra needs some attention.
I had this experience myself when I left one way of life for another. I had invited in more Spirit, and was horrified when my life fell apart. however, it was only temporary. Really, my first chakra was being reassmebled and strengthen to handle the new energy coming my way. If you’d like to read more about my experience, I have written about the first chakra and growing your foundation on my website. You can read this essay at
www.clearreflectioncoaching.com/FoundationChakraSystem.htm
I am confident that when my client is feeling at home, and safe and secure, this will be a good indication that she has strengthened her first chakra. With that bigger foundation in place, her gifts will easily come through again, and that feeling of needing to control will pass.
Elaine