I’ve just posted a new ebook on my website in the shop called The Empath and the Hero-Fan Family System. I first published these essays in 2009. These essays have been revised and expanded. If you are an Empath and you’ve found yourself caught in confusing relationship patterns where everything seems normal, healthy and happy on the outside but on the inside you feel crazy, sick, tired, and confused, you may be dealing with unhealthy Heroes or unhealthy Fans. These essays cover what this type of family system looks like, how Emotionally Dissociated Hero behavior is reinforced by Fans.
Also included is a description of Secret Drama, a painful relationship dynamic between an Empath and a Hero in which the Empath keeps secrets for the Hero but then the Hero makes the Empath into a scapegoat for the entire Family so the Family can keep its illusion of health and happiness. Many people find my website because they have this painful relationship with a Hero. I map out why this relationship unfolds the way it does and how the Empath can extract herself and then heal using shamanic work.
I hope you find this new ebook helpful!