Category Archives: Soul Path/Purpose

Creativity and Growing Up

Most of us have heard that to be creative we must be in touch with our inner child, and that our inner child is the creative aspect of ourselves.  This is true.  But sometimes a big block to being creative … Continue reading

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Motivations of the Empath Ebook now Available

Hello Everyone! I am very excited to announce that FINALLY my ebook on the Motivations of the Empath is now available.  I have been working on this collection of essays off and on for the past several years.  It’s time … Continue reading

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Leading with the Heart

When we are trying to create from the Soul, from the Heart, sometimes we can get tripped up by practicalities.  These practicalities are real; we need enough money, we need support, we need a life that’s not full of stress.  … Continue reading

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I’m Returning to Client Work

Hello Everyone! I hope summer fun is making its way towards you.  I’ve had a very interesting six months reshaping my practice and diving into my personal work.  I’ve just completed my second trip around the medicine wheel, and it’s … Continue reading

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Family System Reinforcement Essays

Hello Everyone!

I hope you enjoy the labor day weekend. Here in Portland we’re planning on enjoying a bbq on Sunday despite the rain in the forecast. I just love autumn!

This week I’ve published several new essays on my website around Family System Reinforcement. These essays follow one Empath through a Family System and show her path in healing from the typical Empath wounds of rejection and abandonment so she can form her own happy marriage and family. If you are an Empath, these essays are for you. If you are an emotionally dissociated Hero these essays may also be helpful in seeing how the Archetypes of Empath and Hero interact.

www.elainelajoie.com/EmpathyandRelationshipsBook.htm

The new essays are toward the bottom of the page under the heading, Family System Reinforcement.

Enjoy, and have a wonderful holiday weekend!

much love,

Elaine
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The Empath and Archetype

Hi Everyone,

I hope you all are enjoying this beautiful summer! In Portland we’re starting another thankfully short heatwave after a few weeks of cool days in the 70’s. I had an interesting synchronistic experience last week that I wanted to share with you. As most of you know, when synchronicity is in action, Spirit is in action–we’ve stepped out of linear time and into circular time. It’s a cool and magical experience. I had this plus the veil between waking time and dream time lift briefly to give me a glimpse into my own healing process. What magic, but whoa!

As all of you know I’ve been working on a series of essays to collect into a book for the past two years based on the healing journey of most Empaths. What I’ve concluded from working with clients and from my own personal healing work is that Archetypal forces shape our lives more than we might think. Our lives feel very personal to us (especially if we have the Archetype of Empath) but in the larger picture, we are living out similar archetypal patterns. So, my book and my Empath Telecall have been centered around these archetypal forces so we can understand what is happening to us and step out of archetypal forces, or at least use the best parts of the archetype for our benefit.

For the past three calls I have been pulling lessons out of my own personal story to illustrate the collective force of the Family, and how that force can be so strong we may not break free of it to lead the lives that we might choose for ourselves. I had been afraid that I might step too strongly into my own personal story when it came to describing the archetype of the Fan, because in my past people with the Fan archetype have irritated and disappointed me greatly. (The Fan is the archetype that is most concerned about the group and maintaining the group or family, even at the expense of the individuals involved.)

The night before I held my telecall I had a dream in which tornados were taking out the buildings of my college campus. I had looked behind me, and two tornados were tearing a building apart. As I turned my head to the right, three more tornados were taking out another building. Now I was terrified and afraid that I was going to be caught in the twisters and killed. I started to run. But, when I looked ahead of me, two more tornados were destroying yet another building. In that moment I understood that I was not going to survive this, and my fear went away. It was OK to let myself die.

I woke up feeling well rested, oddly enough, given the dream! Usually I do not know until the last minute who will be on these telecalls. As it turned out in this call all the participants had Fan mothers (including me.) The lecture that I had prepared was pertinent personally to each of them, and it made such a difference as to how they were viewing their relationships with their Fan mothers. In fact, the call helped me understand my own mother, and the Fans in my husband’s family better as well. Spirit brought the right participants, and my worries about becoming too personal were unfounded; after all, I was talking about the collective’s archetypal patterns.

The next day my husband and I were at the park with our toddler son. We were talking about the insights I had come to from giving my telecall, and how we could let the anger and guilt we still had at leaving his family system die. While we were happy that we had escaped the powerful group think so we could have the lives that we really wanted, there were still parts of us that cycled between guilt and anger at having done so. Of course, the remaining guilt and the anger are residues of the strength of influence the family group think had over us.

As we talked about this, on my right, just out of my arms reach, a dust devil stirred up. It swirled into a mini twister about a dozen feet tall, threw up bark chips in my hair, my husband’s hair, then moved past me to my son and threw chips into his hair, then it chased a toddler across the park before dissipating. We started laughing at this, given my dream of two days before. We were getting cleaned out to the very roots, and not only had I seen it in dream time, I had seen it in waking time, too. Progress in our healing made, with comfirmation from Spirit!

I love working with Spirit! Healing work is usually a mixture of hard work and joy at the freedom coming our way when we really step in to the path of power. But for me, those meetings of Spirit making the huge signs are the most rewarding. I hope this story helps you step in and claim those places where you are still giving your personal power away instead of using it for your own creativity and joy.

much love,

Elaine
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New Essays Available

Hello Everyone! I hope you all are enjoying your summer.  I am happy to say that I am feeling much much better, so much so that I’ve been able to return to writing, and to working one-on-one with clients on … Continue reading

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My practice is full, but I hope to take more clients soon.

Hi Everyone,

As some of you already know, I’ve had to limit my practice because I was ill for all of April and most of May. Last year these health problems were directly related to working with heavy duty client energy. But this year I discovered that these new health problems were more related to stepping into what the shaman calls destiny, which usually involves deathwork as we step into change. So, until I figure out this next step in my personal work, I am accepting only those clients who have worked with me in the past or whom I’ve worked with on my Empath Teleconference Call. I hope towards the end of the year to work with more of you, especially those of you who have requested intuitive readings.

In the meantime, please use my site as a resource, and visit my links page to look for other coaches and shaman. I highly recommend Greta Holmes, Hilda Porro, Marv Harwood, Irina Dittert, and Steven Encinas plus the others listed on my site are also very very good. These are the people who work on me, so I know how gifted and connected to Spirit they are.

There are now 7 audio conference calls and 11 essays for purchase on the website. If you found my website because you were dealing with someone who is an Emotionally Dissociated Hero, and you found the free essay helpful, you’ll find many of these essays and audios helpful, too. Just go to workshops, click on the Empath Teleconference Call, and there will be a listing of what is now available. I am also working on getting transcripts of the calls, since many people prefer reading those rather than listening. I had hoped to have all the essays posted, but I have not had the chance to concentrate on writing. I plan on having everything up by the end of the summer, and to have hardcopies available for purchase on amazon soon after that.

In the meantime, I am travelling to Canada to study the Medicine Wheel with Marv Harwood in June. This will be my second time through the wheel, and I am both looking forward to it, and also wondering how it will be this time around. The medicine wheel is a process of transformation, so it is fitting to spend the year working through the wheel as I come to terms with what I am becoming as far as that destiny goes. 😉

Many of you have sent me questions which I’ll soon be able to answer here on the blog. Have a wonderful summer, and I will appear here again very soon!

much love,

Elaine

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Support for the Empath

Hi Everyone!

I am happy to annouce that I have been able to record the Empath Telecall for those of you who are looking for support and insight into your intuitive gifts. Right now there are two calls available for download, and the live calls are scheduled for the 1st and 3rd Fridays of the month. Our next call is this Friday. Please let me know if you’d like to join us. Right now we’ve discussed how the Empath deals with input from others, basic protections, and we’ve just begun talking about the Drama Triangle and the Empath. If you’d like to learn more, just go to my website and click workshops. It’s the first workshop listed.

Here’s to enjoying our Empathy and our intuitive gifts!

Elaine

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Who controls your consciousness?

Hi Everyone,

Wow! If you are an Empath, it’s hard not to absorb the doom and gloom mentality of the group right now (or consensual reality, as shaman’s like to call it) It is precisely at times like these that we must remember that we are the authors of our own stories. We are in charge of creating our lives. That is, unless we give our power over to others, without even realizing that that is what we are doing.

If you are scared and fearful right now, make sure that you aren’t tapped in to the group consciousness. Take back your power. You may have to turn off the news or stop reading the paper for the next few months. Instead, look at what you are creating in your life right now, look at what you have control over right now. This is your focus–the rest of it really doesn’t matter.

But, is there anything that needs to change in your life? Now is the best time to make those changes. Is there anything out of alignment with your personal essence, your soul? Now is the time to start the transition. It’s hard, because change always brings up fear, but moving forward now is so important.

Many of my clients and friends are going through big shifts right now that they had put off for a few years. None of us can get way with putting off our work, including the country as a whole, apparently! But our focus needs to be more local.

If you are in a tough spot, with a job loss, or a relationship on the brink, it is the perfect time to remember your creative manifestation skills. It is the perfect time to take this time as an opportunity to connect back to the heart, the soul, and make those changes now.

I have been filled with fear over the past few months–I’ve been absorbing the group think and also my beliefs about the pachakuti (2012) have been triggered. It’s been the perfect time for me to look at my own power, and what I want to create. Looking at my life now, I’ve seen that I’ve done the work in my relationships and in my practice. Everything is in pretty good alignment. There’s no reason that I won’t be well supported like I always have because I’ve gotten those kinks out of the way. Of course, there’s no guarantee of this, but life is a risky business–but this was true before the financial crisis! Taking stock at where I am, what I want to create in my life, I see all is well, and much of the fear subsides. That is, until I look at the paper again!

So make this a practice–Look to your own power when frightened, make sure you’re in charge of your consciousness, regroup, reconnect to your soul, and go back to living your life supported by the Great Spirit.

much love!

Elaine

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